Plymouth Congregational Church

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Resentment

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“Resentment is like drinking posion and hoping it will kill your enemies.”
Nelson Mandela

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2 thoughts on “Resentment

  1. Caron, so happy for you! We’ve talked about this topic and saying we forgive someone, continuing to have a relationship with them, but still to ADD offenses to their list seems a recipe for disaster and a life of pain. If we keep adding to their list of wrongs, judging their behavior to the smallest detail, etc we are not leaving it in God’s hands and digging a deeper whole in our hearts for sins (anger, malice, resentment, distrust, hate, envy, etc.) to take root. I try to think of offenses as a chalkboard…if I forgive it, I MUST wipe it cleanly off the board as if it never happened so that I can’t point to their list and say “that’s another one on your permanent record”. I’m also working on how I can’t use that offense in a future disagreement. Again, if forgiven then it doesn’t exist for future reference against them. I’m trying to just deal with what’s currently happening.

    Maybe I should stop now.

  2. This appeared on a relative’s FB page the other day and I liked it. Resentment is a biggie and interferes with the whole forgiving process. Not to mention the health issues it can lead to. In talking with someone yesterday about why I am finally healing a relationship, I said that it “took an act of God and Bill Beagle.” (Our pastor for those who don’t know) I’m 50+ years old and it’s taken me this long to start realizing that I need to let some of this stuff go. And it was not like I resented some people in an envious way, it was more like how do people get away with acting certain ways. And I don’t know if this is a healthier way to think or not, but what makes me more unhappy – the anger I feel towards them or the fact that I AM letting them control how I feel – and I think it really is the latter. So, I am going to make more of an effort to just let things go.

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